Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Moms- Book #Giveaway


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I was lucky enough to receive a copy of Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Moms by Kristine Carlson. This book has smacked me in the face with awesomeness. Yep, I just wrote that! While my choice of words may not be as refined as other people’s, I mean it 100% when I say I LOVE THIS BOOK. It has definitely changed the way I look at being a Mom. It has helped me prioritize my day and realize that all the small things that would usually stress me out, just don’t matter. What matters is making sure that Jp is taken care of and happy. Making sure that I spend that hour with him instead of doing laundry. Making sure that I fit “Me Time” into my afternoon. Mom’s can use a time out just as much as the little ones sometimes.

Here’s an excerpt.

Chapter 1
There’s No Such Things as a “Perfect” Mom

Just for a moment, take this in fully, and say it to yourself: “I don’t have to be the perfect mother.” How many times have you carried the burden of thinking you have to live up to some ideal “fairy-tale” image of a good mother? One who is relentlessly kind, patient, wise, nurturing, good-tempered, inexhaustibly energetic, a fine cook and homemaker, a multitasker — that person few of us have ever actually met who “can do it all”? That’s not to say that, as mothers, we shouldn’t strive to be the best examples for our children that we can be, but we do them a disservice when we hide our mistakes, don’t allow them to see our flaws, or don’t apologize when we’ve been wrong. We need them to see the world as multi-dimensional, and that means the people in it, as well. Give yourself permission to be authentic and to express yourself completely as a mom. When we do so, we relieve not only our own stress to live up to impossible standards, but we help our kids to see that they don’t have to be perfect, either. When we make space for imperfection and mistakes, we give our kids a chance to deepen themselves and to become more true to themselves and real as they grow up. Abandoning perfectionism is such a relief for us, and them.

One of the ways in which we can show our humanness is to own our mistakes and bear witness to humility. If you hold yourself too high on the proverbial pedestal, not only do you alienate your kids, but also it can be a long way down when you fall. If, on the other hand, you admit to your errors or become more transparently yourself, you not only avoid a fall but also teach your kids important lessons. Many times, we make excuses or blame others when things go wrong instead of accepting responsibility for our shortcomings (and I emphasize “short”-comings). Transparency allows your children to see you exactly as you are, and promotes the deepest kind of connection. It is also a show of true self-confidence and self-love that you accept yourself as you are, in all of your humanness.

Oftentimes, when our kids push the limits of our patience, we blow. Whether we are dealing with a toddler or a teen, as parents we set boundaries for our kids, and when they cross those boundaries we issue consequences. But sometimes we get so caught up in the moment that our anger or frustration overwhelms our sense of perspective, and we go too far. We say things like “You are grounded for the rest of the school year.” When dealing with children, especially teens, it’s very easy to overreact (although I had a few quarrels with my little ones, too). Once we’ve cooled down, we see it, but we’re usually too embarrassed to make amends, to say that we spoke thoughtlessly or even cruelly or to roll back a consequence that really didn’t fit the crime. We fear that we’ll look silly; that we’ll lose our authority and that our children won’t respect us again. But there is a better way. You can admit to your kids that you lost it, and say: “I’m not apologizing for giving you a consequence but I am sorry for how I lost my patience and for what I said (or the severity of the consequence).” You are showing your child that life is filled with mistakes and imperfection, and that we don’t always learn from the things we do right. Oftentimes, we learn from the things we do wrong. Maturity is about taking responsibility, and knowing that no one is perfect all the time, and that we can always come back from a mistake. Teach them that all perfection really means is that you’ve recognized an opportunity to take steps to do or be better. In the real world, that’s truly all we can do.

Richard and I use to joke together: “I’m not okay. You’re not okay. But, it’s okay.” As we show our kids that we are infallible and willing to make amends for our mistakes, we show them a vulnerability that aligns us with the rest of humanity. What a relief! Shed your cloak of invulnerability today. Doing so will let your uniqueness as a parent shine, while giving your kids permission to be human, too. It’s a great feeling to know that we are all perfectly imperfect, just as we are.

Chapter 2
Nourishing your Spirit First

“Take time for yourself” may seem like an old adage, but it’s never been more necessary than for today’s woman, as we often juggle a busy schedule that includes a full-time career and an intensely structured family life. If you’re anything like me, you’ve asked the question, “Where do I fit into this picture?” more than once since embarking on this family journey. You are where all things start in your family. While it may take some ingenuity to create the space in your day, taking time to nourish your spirit is the single most important thing you can do for the well-being of all.

There is no job that fits the term “overworked and underpaid” more than that of being a parent. Our commitment is boundless, and we carry our responsibility 24/7. Then, too, we are trying to be loving partners and competent employees. We’re firing on all cylinders, and it’s a marathon. Raising children will occupy a full quarter of our life expectancy. These are also our best years — when we have the most energy and our capacities are at their peak. You want to do it all, and to do it right — to be the best you can be in every role you have. To do this, you need to create the space to nourish and take care of you, and to make sure that becomes a valued part of your day.

I’ve always believed that the very early morning hours are a woman’s best time. That time of day before the house starts moving, when the light is pink with the sunrise and the air fresh with dew, belongs to you. There is nothing better than to get your day off to a peaceful start. No matter what ages your kids are, you can create a few minutes of time and space for yourself for meditation, walking, reading the newspaper over a cup of freshly brewed coffee, or just watching the morning sun burst into day. It will carry you through the hours ahead and nourish your spirit. A practice that works well for me includes waking up at least one hour prior to my family. I sit quietly while sipping fresh coffee or tea, and take in the stillness. Then I always do ten minutes of stretching and inspirational reading. Sometimes, I turn on soft music as part of my meditation. I also spend some time thinking about the things I am grateful for. Then, I pull out a notepad or my laptop and make notes for the day; this clears my head and helps me to feel calm before I begin it. What lies ahead is on paper; my mind is uncluttered. Sometimes I will journal at this time, too. Mostly, I spend some time noticing the peaceful place that exists within me, a place that sustains me all day long. I breathe in sunlight and breathe out tension. Breathe again; sunlight in, tension out. Nourish, nourish, nourish.

An early morning ritual reminds you that the day is buoyant and full of possibility. Anything wonderful can happen as light chases away the dark night sky. It is a reflective and contemplative time when you can do your best thinking and feel the peace that can ground you while you move through your day. Then, when your family rises, you can be present with a positive good feeling and an attitude of gratitude. Remember that loving yourself and nourishing your spirit is loving the family you care for, and there is no better way to start your day than connecting with the beauty inside you.

About the Author Kristine Carlson

In 1997 a little book broke new ground and would go on to become one of the most read—and beloved–books of i
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Sprinkles Cupcakes Free Cupcake Days!!


PEOPLE LIKE US

 

DREAMWORKS PICTURES’ “PEOPLE LIKE US” AND

SPRINKLES CUPCAKES CELEBRATE FAMILY

 

Events Launch on Brothers and Sisters Day, May 2nd

DreamWorks Pictures announced yesterday that they are teaming up with Sprinkles Cupcakes to promote their film “People Like Us” with events at the ten Sprinkles Cupcakes stores around the country. The promotion will run from May 2-June 29, 2012, and is centered around five family-themed holidays: Brothers and Sisters Day (May 2), Mother’s Day (May13), Visit Your Relatives Day (May 18), Father’s day (June 17) and National Forgiveness Day (June 26).

On the designated “People Like Us” holidays, Sprinkles Cupcakes in all ten locations will give out a free cupcake to each customer who comes in between the hours of 12 noon and 2 p.m. and says, “People Like Us.” Any customer can vote online for the official “People Like Us” flavor and the winning cupcake will be announced the week of the film’s opening. Customers can also pick up punch cards in Sprinkles Cupcakes stores, redeemable on the selected ‘People Like Us” holidays for a free cupcake. Follow the movie on Facebook.com/PeopleLikeUs for more details.

“People Like Us”-branded coffee trucks or carts will be at various locations on Brothers and Sisters Day, May 2, to kick off the start of the promotion with free coffee. Visitors to facebook.com/PeopleLikeUs can take the Brothers and Sisters quiz and enter the “Celebrate Family” sweeps to win a trip to visit their family.

“People Like Us” is a drama/comedy about family, inspired by true events, starring Chris Pine (“Star Trek”) as Sam, a twenty-something, fast-talking salesman, whose latest deal collapses on the day he learns that his father has suddenly died. Against his wishes, Sam is called home, where he must put his father’s estate in order and reconnect with his estranged family. In the course of fulfilling his father’s last wishes, Sam uncovers a startling secret that turns his entire world upside down: He has a 30-year-old sister Frankie whom he never knew about (Elizabeth Banks). As their relationship develops, Sam is forced to rethink everything he thought he knew about this family—and re-examine his own life choices in the process.

The film also stars Olivia Wilde, Michael Hall D’Addario, Philip Baker Hall, Mark Duplass and Michelle Pfeiffer.

A DreamWorks Pictures presentation, “People Like Us” is directed by Alex Kurtzman, produced by Roberto Orci, Bobby Cohen and Clayton Townsend, and written by Alex Kurtzman & Roberto Orci & Jody Lambert.

The film releases in U.S. theaters on June 29, 2012, and is rated PG-13.

ABOUT SPRINKLES CUPCAKES

Sprinkles Cupcakes opened “the world’s first cupcake bakery” in Beverly Hills, as reported by the Food Network, and is credited by the Los Angeles Times as “the progenitor of the haute cupcake craze.” Founded by Candace Nelson, judge on Food Network’s hit show “Cupcake Wars,” and husband Charles, Sprinkles has inspired long lines of devoted Hollywood stars and serious epicureans alike. Baked fresh in small batches throughout the day, Sprinkles Cupcakes are handcrafted from the finest ingredients and contain no preservatives, trans fats or artificial flavors. Sprinkles has 10 locations nationwide, a traveling Sprinklesmobile – the world’s first cupcake truck, and sells its cupcake mixes at over 250 Williams-Sonoma stores throughout the US and Canada. In 2012, Sprinkles debuted the world’s first Cupcake ATM and continued its foray into classic American desserts with the launch of Sprinkles Ice Cream. For additional information and a list of future locations, please visit sprinkles.com for all the info you need. 

Wordless Wednesday


This child LOVES his baths. Which is great, because it is so much easier on me!! Also, looks like someone is a tad vain!!

MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS PRIZE PACK GIVEAWAY


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HOLY COW!!!!!! My post yesterday, MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS SNEAK PEEK has gone viral. Well, at least what I would consider viral. Over 1000 views at the time of writing this, and increasing by the moment. This is why I am STOKED to announce my MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS PRIZE PACK GIVEAWAY! One lucky fan will win

MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS t-shirt in adult sizes of S, M, L, XL

MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS set of 6 buttons

MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS one pair of limited edition 3D glasses

WANT TO WIN?!?!  All you have to do is Like MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS on Facebook, or FOLLOW THEM ON TWITTER . Also leave a comment below telling me who your  favorite character from MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS is and why?? It’s that simple. The winner will be chosen using Random.org, and notified via email. He/She will have 24 hours to respond, or a new winner will be chosen.  Open to US and Canada Residents Only. CONTEST ENDS MONDAY MAY 15 at 12 MIDNIGHT CST. 

MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS SNEAK PEEK


I have not been this excited for a movie in a LONG time!!  The Hubby and I will be for sure having a date night and heading out to see this one!!  Here are some amazing clips from the upcoming movie. Oh man I can’t wait until May 4th!!

The Avengers – Film Clip “Loki Imprisoned”

The Avengers – Film Clip “Captain & Thor Battle”

The Avengers – Film Clip “Head Count”

The Avengers – Film Clip “Black Widow Interrogation”

The Avengers – Featurette “ASSEMBLE”

The Avengers – Featurette “TENSION”

Like MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS on Facebook and also Follow them on Twitter for featurettes, sneak peeks and behind the scenes info from the movie. MARVEL’S THE AVENGERS hits theatres May 4th!!